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I was reading a blog post by a woman named Liz Lebedda entitled “Navigating Support Systems” (really great article, check it out here – http://pinklily213.wordpress.com/2012/08/13/navigating-support-systems/) last night and it really got me thinking about the importance of learning to be alone comfortably.
Many times in my life I’ve had friends come to me complaining about how horrible it is to be single. They stress out and worry themselves sick over finding someone to court everywhere we go. If we go out for drinks, they’re looking for someone. If we grab a quick bite at Panera, they’re looking for someone. There is never a time when we can just sit down and enjoy each other’s company without them worrying about dating, relationships, or finding a significant other.
Personally, I love being single. For me, it’s not that I’m not good enough or that I’m not funny enough, or smart enough to have a girlfriend; I see it as an opportunity to learn to love myself. In the last 6 months, I’ve learned more about myself then I could have ever imagined. I learned what I loved about myself and also what I wanted to improve. And from there I took action to change what I didn’t particularly care for. And when the time is right, I’ll be ready for a relationship, because I am perfectly comfortable and happy without one.
In it’s essence, my friends constantly complain because they feel inadequate without someone by their side. They feel that they are better, funnier, happier, stronger, and countless other things when they have a girlfriend by their side. This is the exact reason why we need to learn to live alone.
There’s a beautiful quote that’s always brought to mind whenever a situation like this arises.
You’re never alone if you love who you’re alone with.
Why is it that we put so much emphasis on the necessity of having a mate? Take the time to learn to love yourself, just like you learn to love others in your life and you will never truly be alone. Remember this quote next time you’re having trouble accepting the single life, and I think you’ll be just fine.